congratulations to lilly and "I kissed dating goodbye"

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I was pleasantly surprised last night to hear lily had come to Christ. That church service that night I felt as though lily would and was praying for her but i didn't think it would be so soon. I was really happy and glad and really hope and pray for her spiritual walk with God to continue to grow strong as she continues to trust in Him.
Also this week I've been reading "I kissed dating goodbye", I find it rather interesting but I do find while learning this guys view on how we should go about finding a partner I am learning more about God and his love and how we should show others this love. I’ve read about half the book at the moment, one of the first things it talked about was "intimacy is the reward of commitment", actually I found that I was able to relate to this one as in past relationships I can never tell a girl that I love her unless I feel that she was someone I could see myself getting married to. To me they go together because without seeing someone as a future life partner I just seem to see us breaking up, I can’t give my heart to someone when I see it ending in disaster. To me saying I love you is not something I will just throw around and make cheap. It’s pretty bad because I haven’t viewed any of my past relationships with girls as the one that I wanted to spend my life with (well except one that I had in high school in grade 8 we where together for a year and half and I did tell her I loved her). I really shouldn’t have gone out with any of them but I often did because I felt something was missing and I wanted to be close with someone. I do think it terrible the things I’ve done in the past, I went out with girls when I wasn’t ready for something more, and often thought I’ll grow to love them, but without being able to see them as my future partner I was never able to give them my heart. Though we did get intimate in the physical sense we never really grew that close to each other. It’s not always an easy thing to do but now with this new Church I think it’s a time for me to grow and mature in Christ and myself before I am ready to get into another relationship (I’m thinking this would take at least a year depending, I’m calling this the year of growth). I think it’s important before we move into a relationship we get ourselves right first.

Other good points in the book that he goes through are in chapter four, they are these:
1. every relationship is a opportunity to model Christs love
2. my unmarried years are a gift from God
3. I don't need to pursue a romantic relationship before I'm ready from Marriage
4. I cannot "own" someone outside of marriage
5. I wil avoid situations that could compromise the purity of my body or mind.